- Spencer Coursen's Safety Made Simple – Daily Safety Tip
- Posts
- What Taylor Swift’s Stalker Case Teaches Us About Everyday Safety
What Taylor Swift’s Stalker Case Teaches Us About Everyday Safety
How understanding obsessive fixation can help you protect your privacy and your peace of mind
Spencer Coursen
September 26, 2025
What Happened
Taylor Swift found herself once again dealing with an alarming and all-too-familiar threat. A repeat stalker was arrested near her Los Angeles home, despite previous restraining orders intended to keep him away. Although Swift was physically unharmed, the incident serves as a sobering reminder of how quickly obsession can escalate into real-world danger.
Why This Matters
While this may seem like a problem only celebrities face, the truth is that obsessive behavior, especially in the form of limerence, can target anyone. Limerence is a psychological state where someone becomes intensely fixated on another person, often believing in a romantic connection that does not exist. It differs from a crush or infatuation in both intensity and persistence. When unreciprocated feelings grow unchecked, they can turn into stalking, manipulation, or worse.
Bottom Line
Obsession is not romance, and limerence is not love. When someone refuses to respect your boundaries, it is no longer about feelings—it becomes a matter of safety. You do not have to be famous to be at risk. You only need to be visible. The best protection is preparation, and the smartest defense is awareness.
Five Protective Strategies You Can Employ Today:
1. Control Your Digital Footprint:
Audit your social media regularly. Remove personal details like your home address, routines, or travel plans. Criminals often gather information from what you willingly share.
2. Document Everything
Keep records of any unwanted communication or suspicious behavior. Screenshots, timestamps, and detailed notes can become crucial evidence if legal action becomes necessary.
3. Enhance Physical Security
Install security cameras, upgrade door locks, and consider smart lighting systems. Basic physical safeguards can act as both deterrents and early warning systems.
4, Inform Your Inner Circle
Share concerns with close friends, family, or trusted colleagues. Make sure they understand what is happening so they can help you stay alert and avoid inadvertently giving out sensitive information.
5. Seek Legal Protection Early
Do not wait for behavior to escalate.If something feels off, it probably is. Talk to law enforcement or a lawyer about protective orders and your rights. Early intervention can stop a problem before it grows.f your organization initiates a formal evacuation for a credible threat, treat the event as over for that day: don’t return to work, don’t re-enter until authorities give the all-clear, and allow investigators time to do their job. Early attempts to “get back to normal” can get people injured.Disagree with anything? Hit reply—I always read your responses.
Live Smart. Stay Safe.
Did you find this helpful? Why not share it with a friend? You never know when one small shift in awareness could help keep them safe, too.
Were you sent this from a friend? Consider subscribing to learn my tips and tricks to help you protect what matters most.
